Highbrow Personal Praise and Description

Sophisticated eviscerations are always fun to read (the art of the take-down), but how about when one intellectual praises another? Or how about when a person tries to capture the essence of a smart, accomplished person in a paragraph? A few choice selections from recent readings.

Here’s Michael Kinsley praising Christopher Hitchens:

Hitchens is the bohemian and the swell, the dashing foreign correspondent, the painstaking literary critic and the intellectual engagé. He charms Washington hostesses but will set off a stink bomb in the salon if the opportunity presents itself.

His conversation sparkles, not quite effortlessly, and if he is a bit too quick to resort to French in search of le mot juste, his jewels of erudition, though flashy, are real….

His enemies would like to believe he is a fraud. But he isn’t, as the very existence of his many enemies tends to prove. He is self-styled, to be sure, but no more so than many others in Washington — or even in New York or London — who are not nearly as good at it. He is a principled dissolute, with the courage of his dissolution: he enjoys smoking and drinking, and not just the reputation for smoking and drinking — although he enjoys that too. And through it all he is productive to an extent that seems like cheating: twenty-three books, pamphlets, collections, and collaborations so far; a long and often heavily-researched column every month in Vanity Fair; frequent fusillades in Slate and elsewhere; and speeches, debates, and other public spectacles whenever offered.

The biggest strategic challenge for a career like this is to remain interesting, and the easiest tactic for doing that is surprise. If they expect you to say X, you say minus X.

Consistency is foolish, as the man said. (Didn’t he?) Under the unwritten and somewhat eccentric rules of American public discourse, a statement that contradicts everything you have ever said before is considered for that reason to be especially sincere, courageous, and dependable.

Here’s Joseph Epstein describing John D. Rockefeller in the book Ambition, which I love for its clarity:

He was cautious but courageous — a careful plunger. He took on loans of such size as to make his early partners tremble…. He had no known distractions. He found adventure in business, spiritual nourishment in his church, social life among his family. His life was organized for success. He tended to give off a somewhat chilling effect on people who met him. He commanded complete calm in crisis. He planned everything eight or nine moves ahead. He had the mind of a first-rate chess player: analytical, concentrated, monomaniacal. Of his inner life very little is known. Possibly he had none.

Here’s Epstein on Mark Twain, the two final sentences are telling:

Mark Twain, the Lincoln of our literature, as William Dean Howells called him, landed not in the White House but in a white suit. He was the first American writer to attain national celebrity, to be everywhere read and recognized and to turn a big buck off literature, and the white suit was part of his act. He it was who affixed the great label Gilded Age to the time in which he flourished, and he not only labled it but lived it. He was brilliant at marketing, his product being himself, often first-class goods. But he was not much at detail. With one eye on literature and one eye on business, he developed a cross-eyed talent. To excoritate your time yet revel in its luxuries, to proclaim the virtues of the simple life yet complicate your own life beyond imagining — you can’t have it both ways, but neither can you blame a man for trying. Mark Twain tried, and failed.

Assorted Musings

Quick thoughts, cheap shots, and bon mots.

1. One of the most important qualities of a friend or romantic partner is the person's ability to "read" you well — pick up on your body language and cues, detect moods, etc. We want to feel understood. It's critical for inner circle folks to be able to hear in our voice unspoken sadness, or detect in a smile unusual excitement.


2. The true test of whether a story or video or movie is funny is whether you laugh at it when alone. Laughter is primarily a social bonding exercise. When with others we laugh to bond with them more than because of the actual humor of the thing. Being alone, then, provides the best test of innate humor of a product.


3. When observing behavior, I enjoy spotting forced low-keyness or calculated laid-backness. It's, like, so hip to be laid-back!


4. It's easier to edit than to write new words. Similarly, it's easier to critique a plan than to offer brand new ideas. So when you're soliciting feedback from someone, show them something concrete and ask for their feedback. Instead of "What should I do?" ask "What do you think of my plan X?"


5. Would you rather read someone who, when he's good, he's really really good but has some clunkers, or someone who steadily churns out "pretty good" stuff? Tyler Cowen says the former: "You read people for their peaks."


6. Would you rather have a big impact on a small number of people, or a small impact on a large number of people? Most businesspeople seem to say small on big. I'm not so sure.


7. There are two schools of thought around the pace of romantic relationships in college. The first says that when you date someone in college your relationship gets vastly accelerated by virtue of living 24/7 in the same place as your partner. Hence the rule of thumb: double the length of your relationship to get the equivalent amount of time in the real word. That is if you were in a six month relationship in college, due to the extraordinary amount of time you've probably spent with that person during those six months, it probably has the dynamics and intimacy of a twelve month relationship that exists outside of school.

The contrasting view says the length of college relationships should be halved to get a "real world" equivalent because it's so easy in a school setting: you're close by, not working, go to the same parties, etc. You get a pass on many of the challenges real-life couples face. Auto-pilot is easier. Growth and intimacy does not come from autopilot. My view? Somewhere in the middle of these two views.


8. In my post on restaurants I said that waiters should place dessert menus on the table and force patrons to decline dessert after reading the description of chocolate cake. Last week in Mexico City the restaurant did one better: they placed samples of each of the desserts on the table, and then asked, "Which would you like?"


9. "As a country we can stand anything God and Nature throw at us save only plenty. If I wanted to destroy a nation, I would give it too much and I would have it on its knees, miserable, greedy, and sick." – John Steinbeck


10. Say you're feeling sad so you listen to a song that tends to pick you up — a song that you know makes you happy. For awhile, the song will make you happy. But soon enough the association will change. If you always listen to a song when you're sad — in an attempt to make you happy — the association of that song will become sad, and you must find a new song. (Hat tip to Stan James for this theory.)


11. Stickers that say "Made in China" (or wherever) are misleading in this era of globalization and distributed development / manufacturing. Any reasonably complex product consists of many parts made all over the world. The one company that nails the "Made in…" sticker is Apple. On the back of every iPod and iPhone is: "Designed by Apple in California. Assembled in China." California! Sun! Beaches! Designed by Apple! In California! I'm surprised more companies haven't copied Apple. Oh wait – Microsoft did. On the back of the Zune is the text "Hello from Seattle…Assembled in China." Crickets.


12. When you wrap something in irony, you don't really mean what you say. Excessive use of irony, then, becomes an act of self-protection, and can be a sign of insecurity.


13. "You" is the most popular person when speaking informally. For example, "I think you gotta work really hard before anything good will happen." People use the second-person even when they are not referring to you (the person on the receiving end of the message). To use third-person ("one") can sound too formal and stuffy. But be careful. Recently at lunch someone casually used "you" to refer to a generic person but it came across as if he was condescending to me, specifically. I try to mix up second and third person and occasionally qualify "you" by saying, "I'm referring to 'you' generally, of course." These are little things but make a difference.


14. In April and May I'll be speaking in El Paso, TX; Kent, OH; Los Angeles; Baltimore; and Reno. Email me for details or if you want to meet up.

Being Behind by a Little Yields the Greatest Possible Effort

NCAA basketball teams that are behind by one point at halftime are more likely to win than teams that are one point ahead.

That's the fascinating finding of two professors who studied more than 6,000 games. The results are the same even when taking into account homecourt advantage, the team winning percentages and which team got the ball to start the second half.

So what may be driving this pattern? The reason is motivation. Being behind by a little leads to victory because it increases effort. Not only do teams down by a point at the break score more than their opponents in the second half, they do so in a particular way. They come out of the locker room fired up and make up for most of the point deficit in the first few minutes of the second half.

Let your imagination run wild in terms of how this could be applied in the world of business and leadership.

As the authors of the study say, "Companies competing to win contracts or research prizes would be wise to focus employees on ways their competitors are a little ahead. Similarly, strategically taking breaks…when one is slightly behind should increase effort."

In Defense of Those Peculiar and Freaky

Joyce Carol Oates, in a letter to the editor of the New York Times Book Review this past Sunday, takes issue with a reviewer of Flannery O'Connor referring to O'Connor as peculiar:

Was Flannery O’Connor “peculiar” — or is this mildly pejorative and condescending adjective just shorthand for suggesting that she was unconventional, original, strong-willed and serious in both her art and her life, in a way that isn’t common in our experience? Is there any individual of distinction who might not appear to be, from the perspective of the smugly bland and judgmental, “peculiar”?

Nice.

It reminded me of Tom Peters imploring people to "hire freaks." In a PowerPoint deck, he explains:

(1) Because when Anything Interesting happens … it was a freak who did it. (Period.)  

(2) Freaks are fun. (Freaks are also a pain.) (Freaks are never boring.)

(3) We need freaks. Especially in freaky times. (Hint: These are freaky times, for you & me & the CIA & the Army & Avon.)   

(4) A critical mass of freaks-in-our-midst automatically make us-who-are-not-so-freaky at least somewhat more freaky. (Which is a Good Thing in freaky times—see immediately above.)   

(5) Freaks are the only (ONLY) ones who succeed—as in, make it into the history books.   

(6) Freaks keep us from falling into ruts. (If we listen to them.) (We seldom listen to them.) (Which is why most of us—and our organizations—are in ruts. Make that chasms.)

When Looking for Smart, Attractive Adult Women…

Look for smart women who were not physically attractive as children / teenagers, but have become attractive adults.

Hot teenage girls can get cocky and become accustomed to coasting on their looks to earn attention from men.

Nerdy and unattractive teenagers must be unusually witty or entertaining to earn attention from men. If they become attractive adults, they retain the braininess cultivated in youth, with the added plus of physical attractiveness.

I am not sure whether the same theory could apply to women searching for men.

Bottom Line: Dating web sites should include two photo boxes: a recent photo and a photo from when you were 15 years-old.

(Thanks to Maria P. for helping generate this theory. Bottom Line is partially in jest.)