I will do a longer post and review on this topic, so I won’t reveal the source book now, but let this serve as an enticement:
The first thing you say to a woman matters very little. Some guys tell me they can’t think of anything or they need a really good line. I tell them they are thinking too much…
"How are you?" I asked.
That is one of my usual openers. Just something you hear every day from the grocery store clerk. 95% respond with a one-word, noncommittal answer: "fine" or "okay". Three percent with enthusiasm: "great" or "super". Those are the ones you learn to stay away from — they’re nuts. And two percent respond with an honest, "Terrible. My husband just left me for his yoga teacher’s receptionist. How fucking Zen." Those are the ones you love.
And here are some assorted links that passed through my brain today:
- What happens when a college commits an act of heroism and doesn’t give in to U.S. News and World Report‘s college ranking game? Easy: U.S. News simply makes up data.
- Schooled by American Idol: "American Idol reflects a tension between a self-esteem-obsessed culture devoted to the validation of individual achievement and a hunger for genuine standards. The judges, like teachers throughout the education system, learn to walk that line."
- Is The Economist a "pseudo-intellectual con job, based on Anglophilic snobbery and Oxbridge-style swagger"?
- Does the kind of music you listen to reveal something about your personality?
- The Art of Non-Pitching a VC – You don’t, really, need their money. Or at least that’s what you need to say. (A helpful psych technique in other situations, too.)