How to Cope When You’re Stressed

A friend emailed me and told me she was really stressed but that she’d gotten some great advice from another friend, which she forwarded to me. It’s below and it’s great advice.

My point to her was, “Stop telling yourself you’re stressed.” Self-talk is really important. The more you tell yourself and others how stressed you are, the more stressed you become. I extend this theory to the common cold — when you tell people have a cold, the cold only persists.

Her friend’s full email:

We all have those days Mary. You need a day of rest or a half-day of rest and a lot of sleep. Take a deep breath.

Remember, when things start falling apart, don’t look at the big picture–pay attention to minute details. Get out of your head and into the world.

Look at your hands, are your nails trimmed, are your teeth brushed? What is the weather like today? What can you see new on your way to work? What is the person across from you on the train doing? When we are so caught up in our problems that we forget the rest of the world, then things really go bad. It’s the details that save you.

Breathe deep, feel the quality of that breath. Taste your food. Slow down.

When you have a minute, draw up a list of the three things you have to do today and the three things that you can accomplish the most quickly.Try and knock out the three must dos and if you you have time, the three easy and quick things. Don’t try to do more. You’ll catch up.

2 Responses to How to Cope When You’re Stressed

  1. Miguel says:

    Thanks! This really helped me a lot.

  2. Dan Sage says:

    Very good insight. I wanted to add some observations which don’t detract from her message, but support it.

    The friend said, “When we are so caught up in our problems that we forget the rest of the world, then things really go bad.”

    I think the cause and effect relationship may be more properly stated: When we forget the rest of the world, we get caught up in our own problems, then things really go bad.

    Just an observation. Whenever I stop helping others and thinking of them first, that is when my own problems start to swell in my mind. May incorporate into your list of things to do quick things you can accomplish for someone else along with the three things that you have to do today.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>