I finally read the Daniel Goleman’s classic, bestselling book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More than IQ. A few years ago I read Goleman’s Primal Leadership, the business-version of Emotional Intelligence, and loved it.
Here are a few pages of notes I typed up on this book.
Here’s the excerpt that tells you everything:
Much evidence testifies that people who are emotionally adept — who know and manage their own feelings well, and who read and deal effectively with other people’s feelings — are at an advantage in any domain of life, whether romance and intimate relationships or picking the unspoken rules that govern success in organizational politics. People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity; people who cannot marshal some control over their emotional life fight inner battles that sabotage their ability for focused work and clear thought.
Your emotional intelligence (EI), Goleman argues, may be the single most important factor in your ability to succeed in the real world, interact in groups, form intimate relationships, and lead a happy life. Goleman says several times that EI is a far better indicator than IQ or academic performance when evaluating someone’s competence at piloting their own life.
I highly recommend this book.