In Defense of Boredom

There are few moments in my life when I am bored. I always have a million things I want to be doing, and in those rare moments like waiting in line at the DMV I try to have a thin book with me to read.

Michael Crowley has a fun piece in the New Republic defending boredom and slightly bemoaning the "always-on" culture we find ourselves in. Boredom is a challenge, he says, think of it like a date with yourself!

Turning off the BlackBerry and just looking out the window feels like an act of spiritual emancipation. And perhaps only one of Amtrak’s famous delays can help me achieve the "profound boredom" that Heidegger recommended for its clarifying power.

Granted, few of us are likely to have blinding existential insights just because we’re out of BlackBerry service range. For me, boredom tends to produce ruminations more along the lines of whether I should move to a new apartment. But it’s a start. In this moment of anti-boredom triumphalism, there’s something creepy about our constant flight from ourselves. Our fear of boredom suggests a kind of self-loathing. What are we so afraid of?

On Caitlin Flanagan's Take on Feminism

Caitlin Flanagan has a new book out called To Hell With All That: Loving and Loathing Our Inner Housewife around which there’s been a lot of buzz. The best review and profile of the book and author is in the LA Weekly. It’s a bit long but worth a read if you’re a feminist or interested in feminist issues. I tagged some other reviews.

A few months ago I blogged Flanagan’s article in the Atlantic on the teen oral sex epidemic. There were some interesting letters to the editor (subs only) after that article. I’m still, though, trying to find a female teen who will read the piece and tell me what they think!

Six Plane Flights in a 40 Hour Period

That’s a new record for me. I’ve also never arrived at an airport on-time around 1:45 AM, which I did this morning.

Six flights, six fights for exit-row seats, six bags of peanuts, six segments of kneeing the person in front of me to dissuade them from pushing back their seat any further.

I’m exhausted.

A Quiet Moment

I always budget time for myself. I’m introspective.

I have a lot on my mind right now. None of it can go on my blog, unfortunately, but it’s sapping a lot of intellectual energy. Yesterday on a plane I did something I rarely do: I took out my iPod, connected them to Bose noise-cancelling headphones, and played one of my favorite songs at the moment (“Something Pretty” by Patrick Park). I put my head in hands, closed my eyes, and just thought.

It was a quiet moment. I wish I could treat myself to more of them.

Are You The Smartest Person in the Room?

Probably not. There is usually someone else who knows more about some particular facet of whatever the issue is than you do. Everyone is an expert in something, and if that something is the topic of the day, then that person’s the smart one. In some cases, it may be even more extreme: someone’s IQ is significantly higher than you — not only can she kick your ass in math, she can write 30 eloquent pages in the time it takes you to write a single paragraph.

And yet, that person isn’t as successful as you. How can that be?

After a certain baseline, raw intelligence just doesn’t impact success, in my opinion. The more successful person is the one who can facilitate the intelligence in the room (ever tried to get an all-star to work for an all-star? It’s tough). The more successful person can translate the intelligence — Malcolm Gladwell has become a rock star for essentially reading academic psychology papers and translating them for popular consumption.

Sure, there are some who posses extraordinary raw intelligence AND are amazingly successful because of great people skills to boot. But those are few and far between. I see far more brilliant hobbits.  Most amazingly successful people are called "brilliant" when in fact I think they’ve mastered the art of facilitating other people’s brains.