Foreigners Want to Speak English To You

English is the lingua franca. It’s hard to come across someone in Europe who doesn’t speak English. I’ve found that many of them like practicing their English. I had a few conversations where it was apparent the other person just wanted to speak English to me so talked and talked and talked.

Speaking their language is still preferred, but only if you’re basically fluent.

In most other cases, throw away the phrase books and speak slowly. If you want to build a good relationship, let them practice their English!

Some Cities Are Nice to Visit, Some Are Nice to Live In, Sometimes They're the Same

That’s a big insight from my trip. Paris is a great place to visit. I wouldn’t want to live there. New York is a great place to visit. I probably wouldn’t want to live there. Seattle, Portland, and Denver/Boulder are great places to live, I hear, but probably aren’t at the top of any tourist list. Of course, I think San Francisco is a great place to live AND visit, but I’m biased.

Day 58: Calgary, Canada

A couple months ago I was looking at my flight itinerary and noticed I had a one-night layover in Calgary, Canada before arriving home in San Francisco. Literally within minutes of realizing this fact I received a nice, detailed note from a blog reader who wrote to say he liked my blog and wanted to introduce himself. Fast forward to a few days ago and Matt Huebert picked me up at the Calgary airport where I stayed at his condo. Talk about randomness! Though I didn’t see much of Calgary, the open plains looked beautiful and there seems to be a bustling downtown area, too. Matt made stirfry and we sat on his deck, ate, and chatted. Even though I had been up for 22 hours then, I recall being awake enough to be intrigued with Matt’s worldview and do-it-yourself entrepreneurial approach to life.Img_1669

Canada to U.S. requires all immigration stuff at the Canada airport. Waiting in line to check in there were two Canadian families behind me both going to San Francisco and both raving about how excited they were. Ah, what a nice feeling: returning home after two months with enthused tourists visiting your city.

Next you go through a bunch of security checkpoints and then enter a huge hall with posters of stereotypical American symbols. Beautiful photos. When I walked up to the officer to do my "interview" the U.S. customs official was unbelivably rude.

Me: "Hey there!" (friendly tune)

Him: "Where you goin’?"

Me: "San Francisco."

Him: "Why?"

Me: "I live there."

Him: "So what are you doing here?" in a shocked and suspicous tone

Me: "Had a layover from London. Been traveling in Europe for almost two months."

Him: "What’s your flight number."

Me: "Um, I’m not sure…"

Him: "Hey, you could look at your boarding pass, right? Hey there’s a novel idea! Give me your boarding pass." (super unfriendly tone)

After we’re done, he hands back passport, doesn’t look at me, and shouts to the next person in line: "Let’s go!"

This is the first interaction a visitor has with America. Really frustrating that he couldn’t have been more friendly.

Quote of the Day

“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some people move our souls to dance. They awaken us to new understanding with the passing whisper of their wisdom. Some people make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon. They stay in our lives for awhile, leave footprints in our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.”

I saw this posted on a wall of a house I stayed at in London. It was a personal email. I don’t know if it’s a “quote.” Regardless, the fact that my eyes happened to pass it makes it all the more beautiful.

The most wrenching cases are when people enter your life, leave your life, and years later you realize the impact they had, when it’s too late….

Hating Your Country While Abroad and Then Returning

A lot of people have asked me recently what it’s like being back in America after two months overseas. I’m still reflecting.

My friend Ramit Sethi just sent me this fantastically provocative post by a guy who’s traveled extensively reflecting on how American backpackers view their country after returning home. Some of his comments don’t apply to me (no 3rd world countries yet) and some I don’t even agree with. But he does tackle the bash-your-own-country syndrome with humorous crudeness.

There is no way to avoid seeing the USA differently when you come back, I’m afraid. But there are less self-cannibalizing ideas of "differently."…

I find that my cultural observations about Guatemala are usually really about me. "These people are mean" means "I am lonely." "Those people are loud" means "I feel excluded." "This country is great" means "I love being unemployed and drunk." When I start talking about America on the return, I’m usually still just talking about myself.

A fine point. Doesn’t this apply to most things? It’s amazing that what people say usually shows more about who’s saying it than what’s actually being said.

In Livingston, in a bar, one of my cobackpackers started up with the whole "I’m so glad to be away from all that shit, all that wholesale corporate shit, all that unthinking consumption, all that overly aggressive American culture, all that Bible thumping and fast food and 9-5" routine

I set down my beer, and gestured for the guy to lean over.

"I’ve got a hunch about America, dude…"

"What’s that?"

"…You’re doing it wrong."

Divebars. Jukeboxes. Allen Iverson. Beerball. Super Mario Kart. NetFlix. LiveFuckingJournal. The way my girl looks in that skirt.

An aversion to whitehats and fast food might be a reason to leave the country, but it’s no reason to bash it. To fail to find a place for yourself in the USA might be a failure of fucking imagination, but it ain’t a failure of the culture to provide.

Although I may have taken a different approach, I agree in principle that when people moan about "getting away from all that wholesale corporate shit," I groan. If you want to be hyper-consumerist, thump your bible, eat at McDonald’s, and work in a cubicle from 9-5 each day, you have the freedom to do so. But guess what? I don’t do any of those things. A lot of people don’t. And it’s just as easy.

My sense is this guy would get along well with P.J. O’Rourke who wrote Holidays in Hell. Here are some excerpts of Holidays in Hell. Warning: You may find O’Rourke’s commentary on countries and America highly offensive, disgustingly xenophobic, and so forth. I endorse none of it and agree with only some of it.