| Huge fan of having role models in life. It can also be clarifying to have anti role models — specific people you do *not* want to emulate. |
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| If you really understand something, you can: 1) explain it using a clear metaphor and 2) explain the strongest counter-argument to the idea. |
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| Keep your identity small and avoid nouns. It’s fine to be introverted or extroverted but it’s limiting to *identify* as “an introvert.” #WDS |
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| Are your friends (spending time with right people) the easiest route to self-improvement and a long, healthy life? Yes: http://t.co/ngCakONH |
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| Buy experiences, not things. Experiences = memories = happiness for years later, whereas we quickly adapt to *things*. http://t.co/ovXtDL7s |
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| Ask yourself: “What makes me angry?” It’s uncommon framing but can reveal a lot about one’s values, priorities, passions. |
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| How to Avoid Burnout: Marissa Mayer – You can’t have everything you want, so protect the things that really matter – http://t.co/aY9RiDsk |
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| Upside of taking a chance: we overestimate the value of what we have, underestimate the value of trying something new: http://t.co/1NYONZ7d |
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| Christmas: The day on which Americans give thanks to China for making our favorite toys, electronics, and clothes. |
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| “Competent” is often a better adjective than “smart” or “intelligent” when talking about a person because it forces specificity and context. |
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| The POTUS doesn’t “run the country.” Such phrasing overstates prez power in the political system, negates vast decentralization of country. |
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| I don’t get when ppl say they have “no regrets” in life. I understand “look forward, not backwards,” but still. Regret is a powerful teacher |
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| Some *say* they’d rather be well-respected than well-liked, but for most people I think the desire to be liked by others is overwhelming. |
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| A proximate reason a guy/gal marries: years of dating has led to neglect of friends, and with a breakup he fears being single AND friendless |
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| “Opposites attract” remains a popular expression, but so wrong. Studies show we prefer people who look like us, think like us, agree with us |
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| High IQ combined with high insecurity: a uniquely toxic one-two punch. (inspired by B. Horowitz blog post) |
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| Some people can be passionate about the *process* of company building — what the company actually does is not as important. |
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| Classic trade-off when hiring: someone who’s inexperienced yet hungry vesus someone who’s experienced but not as much to prove. |
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| Some people work in non-profits because they’re not interested in money. But obsessing about money is what many non-profits have to do. |
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| Fundamental questions to ask of someone: What are you doing? And why are you doing it? (via LessWrong) |
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| Andy Grove’s suggested way to discover your business’s key competitor: Imagine you had a gun with one bullet. At whose head would you point? |
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| If “public pensions” were popularly known as “government-employee pensions,” I suspect more people would become engaged / enraged. |
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| Bad salespeople talk your ear off. Good salespeople know to shut up and listen. |
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| It’s always helpful to specify times in the other person’s time zone, and it’s a must if you’re working for the person or are lower status. |
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| Appearing unimpressed or uninfluenced by someone who’s more successful is a common way people try to raise their own status. |
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| So much of writing is not writing the sentences themselves but organizing the sentences and paragraphs in a way that makes sense. |
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| Reading is not just about the content of the text. It’s allocating quiet time / space to think and reflect on the issues raised by the text. |
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| High capital costs, high switching costs, or huge network effects appear to be three reliable pillars of defensibility in tech businesses. |
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| In most contexts, when people hear “reform” they think “progress in the right direction,” regardless of specific details. |
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| Overheard: “The problem in education is that we have educators running the school systems. Pilots are not CEOs of the airline companies.” |
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| A lot of times it’s better to catch the end of a big wave than the peak of a small wave. |
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| Random writing thought: cut “very” in front of adverbs and adjectives. At times, perversely, it even weakens the next word. |
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| There’s nothing wrong w/ not being “passionate” about your 9-5 job if it gives you plenty time to pursue ur serious, hard-to-monetize hobby |
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| A litmus test for a good person in your life: can you be your truest and most natural self around him or her? |
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| Lists of numbered points where the total number is too pat (5, 10, 15, 20, etc) usually have more fluff than a list of points w/ an odd #. |
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| Preface an otherwise banal aphorism with “My father once taught me” and it becomes rich with generational credibility. |
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| When you’re giggling, you know you’re doing something right. (Surprisingly profound advice from a friend.) |
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| If frequency with which you cite an education credential does not decrease over the course of your life, you’re not accomplishing very much. |
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| Sometimes we laugh because a joke is funny. Sometimes we laugh to show we’re smart enough to understand the joke in question. |
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| Litmus test for mood: impatience when listening to music. In a good mood, everything usually sounds good. Bad mood, always clicking “Next.” |
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| The airline you fly the most is the one you think is the worst. |
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| “That’s such a huge generalization!” is not a rebuttal against a generalization, nor is identifying a random exception. |
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| People who do not have a tidy, short answer to the question “What do you do?” are usually pretty interesting. |
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| An ideal: work all day with entrepreneurs, but have your meals (and twice-daily conversations) with journalists and academics. |
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| People too quickly assume that suffering, pain, and hardship “builds character.” Sometimes suffering is just….suffering. |
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| The hardest type of criticism to take is about self-perceived strengths. Yet this is the most important to hear. |
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| I’m amused by self-styled “busy” people. Busyness is as much a matter of identity as it is a reflection of time availability and schedule. |
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| Looking back on experiences, we remember the highest or lowest moment, and how they ended. |
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| Overheard: A key sign of maturity is realizing that *you* are not the baseline against which all opinions / behavior etc should be compared. |
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| If a woman tells me she loved / had a great time in high school, I can predict many things about her. (The converse is not true.) |
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| One of the best ways to improve a friendship with person X is to become friends with X’s friends. I.e, have mutual friends. |
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| It’s strange that it’s easier to call someone geographically / physically closer to you, even though a phone call is a phone call. |
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| Why say “indefatigable” if you can say “tireless?” Short, punchy words are best. |
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| How many business brainstorming sessions include the phrase, “If we had scale…” Yes. Every idea is interesting at scale. |
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| We learn about who someone is by the choices they make when the choice isn’t obvious. |
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| Environmentalism is the leading secular religion. |
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| “Learn by doing” – doing something yourself is almost always the best way to learn something. Extremely simple yet so rarely followed. |
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| How many billion dollar companies started with the founder saying, “I want to start a billion dollar company.” My opinion: few. |
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| When we’re unsure of how we feel, we often try to convince ourselves by trying to convince someone else of the point. |
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| In an attempt to focus ourselves to make an important decision, we often overrate the stakes, causing unnecessary stress and add’l paralysis |
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| Self-understanding, like happiness, is never fully achieved. It’s an on-going pursuit and sometimes excessive explicit focus hurts the cause |
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| Why do we often say an essay or person is “smart”? When it/the person makes *us* feel smart. We love feeling like we “got it.” |
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| Intelligent people have a remarkable ability to rationalize irrational actions, to re-tell history to fit their preferred, comfy narrative. |
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| Formal school helps neuter your natural “what interests me” sensor b/c to succeed in school you cannot ask yourself that Q, you do as told. |
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| Smart is like vanilla ice cream. There are thousands of really smart people. I value eccentricity, weirdness, interestingness. Black swans. |
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| Most actively seek positivity and happiness. Another approach is to try to eliminate negativity and things that make you unhappy. |
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